Tuesday, July 22, 2014

A CELEBRATION OF TWO YEARS & LEARNING TO LET GO





We as women are very talented at putting almost everyone else’s needs above our own, although recently I am truly starting to understand from experience that you can not look after others if you do not look after yourself.

As I almost reach the two-year anniversary since starting the blog (and what a whirl-wind two years it has been!), I look back and realize how much I have poured my absolute heart and soul in to this dream. Although, over the last couple of months I have become more aware of how this has been effecting my relationships with those I love the most, my husband, my kids, my family and close friends. Even in a job that I absolutely adore, with a purpose that I believe in, I have been having constant feelings of being overwhelmed, impatient with my loved ones and constantly struggling to keep up with my day-to-day life.

It is today, as I write this, that I understand that we as women and mothers need to learn to look after ourselves better.  To not get too hung up on perfection, to let go of these ridiculously high personal expectations, and to stop trying to do it all! When we are run down and overworked, we are less likely to be able to solve everyday problems, to be content with what we do have and to be grateful of the people and things we treasure. 

So how do you get that work and life balance? That is the golden question. There certainly is no formula, and what might work for me may not work for you.  I believe it all comes down to being aware of this moment, appreciating the beautiful day that is, and simply listening to your body and taking the time to be mindful of what is truly important to you.

Grab a pen and paper, write these things down, and tape it next to your mirror so that you can be reminded each and every day. Take the time to do things you used to love doing, whether that’s getting lost in a book, going swimming, or even just sitting outside in sun. Its so incredibly important to cultivate these simple pleasures to remind us that life is for enjoying and taking each day as it comes.

We absolutely have to stop wasting our energy on trying to be super women. We need to let go of that horrible thing we call guilt! We may even find it is surprisingly easy to let go of things that we once believed were so important. Somewhere inside, a small quiet part of us is just waiting to gently remind from within that sometimes you need to let go of things to be able to move on with life.

It might be difficult to begin with, but it is truly life changing to realize that we are not on our own, and we do not need to be consumed by these day to day things which take over our lives. The once terrifying task of ‘letting go’ starts to become effortless and a huge weight can be lifted from our shoulders.

So right now, as I sip on my creamy hot mug of deliciousness, and gaze out in to our garden.  I take a  deep breath, and then exhale slowly. I release all that is inside of me, until I feel empty and content with this moment. I  now feel able to look forward to living and loving life with relentless freedom, and a new found peace.

 I am the stones through which the river flows; this, too, passes through me.’

I thank you for taking the time to read this post, and if you feel inclined please comment below with your thoughts. I love to believe that we are all here to help each other, and appreciate all of your support and kind words greatly.


All my love, Eleanor xx

16 comments:

  1. Eleanor, thank you for your honesty. The same sentiments have been on my mind so often over the last months and even couple of years. I haven't been able to put it into words as well as you have, so thank you. Thank you, too, for all you've shared through your knowledge and recipes. I've used so many of them and love your cook book! In fact we loved your baked beans recipe for lunch today, as well as the lemon, thyme and lavender roast chicken which I've made several times for guests and it's always enjoyed very much! But please know, as much as we love to try your recipes, that you can take a break whenever you need - we are often in the same perfectionist-driven, overwhelmed-with-daily-life spiral so at least I can offer you much grace! You're so right in saying that it's our loved ones who should come before all we hope to achieve each day xx

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  2. Hey gorgeous super woman, I don't how you do it and can completely understand putting loved ones first. This has also been my priority this year and I have found more calm and balance in what I do by making this change. Watching my little people grow and evolve and live in the present is more special than anything. Much love to you Eleanor you are an inspiration to us all xx

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  3. Eleanor, I don't think any of your followers expect new recipes every single week. Treat us a little mean and keep us keen with less-frequent posts. Most of my evening meals are your recipes so I'm not going anywhere! I'll bet that a lot of other regulars feel the same. Slow it down a bit. We will be here.

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  4. Thank you for the lovely (and timely) post

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  5. This is such a beautifully written and heart-warming post Eleanor, and to echo what Jody said - us readers will always be here. Take good care of yourself! xx

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  6. such a wise soul at such a young age! Amazing and thank you for everything that you are and that you have created. thank you for your honesty and openness that allows us to see you are human too :-) x

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  7. That is so well said Eleanor. As we get older, we all begin to realize what is important in our lives. We learn that a kind word, a smile, a squeeze of the hand and a minute of time can make us and others feel wanted and part of the human race. We love you......Granddad xxx

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  8. I truly appreciate your courage to share these honest thoughts. I think about these same things and your words resonate with me so very much. Cultivating simple pleasures, as you say, and prioritizing them for ourselves, seeing them as essential rather than self-indulgent is so important. I am training to become a holistic health coach and it's so nice to know others are thinking along the same lines, because these ideas are the essence of what I want to share with my clients.

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  9. Love your blog, love your work. Keep it up but indeed take care of yourself first. If that means taking some breaks or slowing down in one or another area, then do that. Whatever if takes to feel balanced, do that. I echo Jody and Olivia's sentiment that we will still be here.

    This Jenny Bornholdt poem might just help...
    WEIGHING UP THE HEART
    Always, there are our hearts
    to consider.
    They are most
    precious to us.
    The heart is a means
    of description.
    It will locate
    the sentiment.
    Speak up
    small red thing.
    The heart is
    the deciding factor.
    Wave your arms around
    see the sky bloom.
    The heart lives
    as a steady witness
    within the body.
    We would hope
    for a rigorous
    sympathy
    for the heart to
    remember
    the reliable place
    in which it dwelled.
    Always refer back
    to the heart.
    It is where
    the world
    began.

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  10. Take care and look after yourself. I love your book and take a big break with the blogs as I want to try every recipe in your book love the ones I have tried so far fantastic! Thankyou

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  11. Oh beautiful woman; outside and in. You give so freely and speak to so many and I'm sure, oftentimes, the load is heavy. It sounds like you know what to do, please don't be afraid to do it. Be kind to yourself and the rest will come. Kia haha. X

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  12. Self care is courageous! Thank you for sharing your truth!

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  13. So so true... I am glad that a site in which you bring so much creativity also manifests insightful thoughts as well! As long as you are aware of where you are (emotionally/mentally) it is that much easier to know where you need to go...or let go. Thank you for sharing!
    Alway find your peace

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  14. Reading this post has reminded me that I don't have to constantly achieve superwoman status. In fact trying to do this only results in feelings of guilt, and an overwhelming sense of I have so much to do before I can be all that I should be. So reading this let me release a sigh and say none of this overworking, over achieving, over pleasing is worth it if I'm not finding the time to enjoy my life. With such gratitude.

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  15. This absolutely and undoubtedly R E S O N A T E S with me. I have recently found the amazing services of a health coach www.squareonehealth.co.nz and they have helped completely grounded me with everything you talked about. But as time goes by you need these reminders and finding your blog via Sarah Kember has been the most pertinent reminder. Thank you for sharing such a special piece. I am right there with you.

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  16. Eleanor this post is beautiful and encouraged me to take a deep breath. You are so incredibly wise and your gentle heart can be felt emanating from your words. You have achieved so very much already, we all need you to stay balanced and happy because it's the most important thing you can ever do- for anyone. Enjoy the small things, I'm practising embracing this too :-)

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